i have a bad habit of having full on conversations with people via tumblr ask and apparently not deleting the messages when im done… :s
i cant believe that number. cause i dont feel like I get a lot of asks but i do talk to some people through the ask box lol
awww little chad. not as good as dave at drumming but such a little sweetie
I literally do not care about your gender, sexuality or skin colour.
I literally only care about whether you’re a nice fucking human being or not.
so basically you’re racist, sexist and homophobic
how exactly could you have come remotely close to that conclusion
Wow this roguefeminist user is an idiot.
theroguefeminist isnt too far off actually since the post sounds an awful lot like OP is saying they are “colourblind” but in all listed categories. That mentality erases these groups identities and at the same time their very real struggles and very real oppression and incredibly harmful oppressing done by other groups
That in itself is racist/sexist/etc. Because you are complying with an oppressive system and willfully choosing to ignore serious problems and go the easy road of “i dont care as long as you arent an asshole”..purposefully being blind tothe problem that plagues us as a society and willfully participating in the problem. Making them, by default, racist/sexist/homophobic/etc.
Yeah I don’t know why I bothered with this post; Especially since I’m trying to avoid getting involved in this shit on my dash these days.
However TRF’s oversimplification & generalization by these standards is just as harmful as the person whom was just trying to express they respect ALL human beings, whom are not pieces of shit. Because honestly horrible people don’t deserve respect.
By this logic, because I’m a pansexual that means I’m a sexist bigot, because I don’t “see gender”; I respect & treat people the way they identify both in gender expression and sexuality, but ultimately I’m interested in the person, their mind, more-so than their body parts.
It’s genuinely frustrating, when legitimately open-minded & decent human beings are being attacked for being the very way we’re trying to get humanity to head. In a healthy direction, of mutual respect to all humans, and cooperation amongst each other. I get the whole ignoring serious problems is bad, however anyone I’ve ever met whom only cares about what kind of person you are, do not ignore the serious issues facing oppressed individuals or groups. Hell most are the first to pipe up, and cry social injustice.
I don’t mean to rant at you, but I’m sick of people with a good handle on how to treat their fellow human beings, getting shit on for doing what people want humanity to achieve.
I totally get what you are saying. I think some people can go overboard and the often are really cruel when someone is trying to be a good person. This person responding I think was pointing out that that frame of thought is harmful and part of the problem. That in theory its great but in practice its damaging. Thankfully they werent one of those people who called them a “piece of shit” or something. But I get what you are saying, OP is trying to be a good person and the other person came in and shit on them without much explanation either.
But as a pansexual myself I can say that being pansexual is not about not seeing gender. Seeing gender is important. Its part of peoples identity. But its seeing people as more than just their gender and understanding that gender stereotypes are harmful which is where the colourblind concept becomes an issue.
I think they have good intention but the concept of not seeing people as their race or as their gender or as their orientation is both rude to the individual as well as detrimental to our growth in become a better more accepting society. In that way not only do you ignore important parts about who a person is but you also ignore large scale problems as being systematic issues when you break it down to an individual level and thats wrong and contributes to the problem we all know op probably wants to work against.
and its cool you are allowed to rant :) I understand the frustration but I also think that its a real issue and wanted to elaborate because while I think OP is probably a good person and is trying to do the right thing, they are going about it in sort of the wrong way..
I went to town today for some shopping~
what wig is that? you look stunning!
I went to town today for some shopping~
so sorry i thought i responded to this.
you know what. he just thinks its ok. It wasnt really what either of us expected. Though it is very very nice. It looks kinda funny on me i think and not as nice as we both thought. we both thought it would be more red and its kind of like.. pale.. or pastel i guess and i was expecting more of an auburn.
he likes when i wear wigs though lol
Slow down their buddy.
I didnt make anyone wear a dress to my wedding! My brother at the time was gender fluid (kinda floated inbetween for years) and I made sure to tell him as well as my sister that neither of them had to wear a dress, that they were welcome to wear suits instead. But both insisted on wearing a dress cause they WANTED to do it for me. They specifically said they wanted to do it for my wedding. I in no way pressured them or even asked them to. I told my brother he could do it as a boy if thats what made him comfortable and my sister could wear pants as she has never been one to wear skirts or dresses either. And I let them pick their own outfits (aside from the colour.. which was actually the only colour available at the time we ordered..so no one got to pick that lol)
so kindly back the fuck off since you dont have any clue what you are talking about
One of my best friends jeremypamyupamyu told me that I should cosplay as Sam Nishimura from the TR reboot. Not everything is exactly on point but this is the closest I will get. I think it looks pretty good!