My name is Christal. I live in WA and play the drums in a two piece with my husband called the Heavy hips. We play garage. We got married on Halloween 2010 on our 5th anniversary. We just had our first child, Judah, on September 17th 2012.
~I draw and and do crafts~
Anonymous sent: I'm sorry, but I feel really bad for thinking this way. Either you are saying things that are WAY to personal or you must be lying about some of the stuff you post here.
I guess its way too personal. Its all true assuming you are talking about my parents. Check out my fb.. its public, who my parents are is marked and look at their fb’s they are pretty open about what they are going through…Im not lying I just dont have anyone to really talk to and talking about it on here makes me feel better.
but thanks.. thanks for that.. really kind of you..
Anonymous sent: "I hate all grunge blogs, unless they are actually related to grunge. The movement started in seattle in the late 80’s early 90’s being the definition of the style of music…" wow you're cool. how old are you? old enough to get on google and search that to sound cool and like you're super opinionated? nice going
What? The intent was not to sound cool. Im only 23 (born in 89) so yeah I was born just as it was starting. I dont like the “grunge” blogs they are tacky in my opinion (just as we all have things we dont like) and are not grunge. Call it whatever you please but it isnt grunge. I dont want to say “I like grunge” and have people think that Im part of that fad. I may have not been born at the right time but all of the things I have learned about grunge, the legit thing, I have learned through music, cd inserts, videos, books, journals..some of it I even learned through people I know. Like people ive met who hung out with kurt cobain back in oly when he played in the garage/gallery, or were friends with alice in chains members before they were anything, or when we were in a band and a drummer for TAD wanted to steal jon to play with him and we chatted at our house while he fixed our lights and chatted at the place where we both had practice.
Its not that im super opinionated. Im as opinionated as anyone else out there, you included. Its something that is simply close to my heart and I enjoy and have spent time learning lots about and have been really into. What I stated about what it is, is merely a fact. Nothing opinionated about that.
Anonymous sent: I went back and read all of your pregnancy stuff. You seemed so serious about having a natural birth experience but in your birth story you said that you had an epidural and had your bag of waters broken. Why didn't you go naturally like you wanted? Did you change your mind?
No I didnt change my mind..I just kind of had to..
I was in labor for nearly two days before going to the hospital. I had been on bed rest for I think one or two days and had handled the contractions just fine. But when I got to the hospital and did the initial blood pressure test and fetal monitoring it was pretty clear that my blood pressure was way too damn high and the baby was also in pretty serious stress for some reason. And also when a baby is in distress it often poops in the womb and that can be an issue so it has to come out fast.
I was told I needed an epidural to firstly get my blood pressure down because pain causes an elevation in blood pressure so it would help there, and to speed up my dialation. I had my water broken to help speed things up to. Indeed judah had pooped in the sack so it was all for good reason. Pretty immediately I got to a ten and was ready to push. Once I got to a ten the took off the epi so I could feel the contractions and push naturally.
It was just something we had to do for the safety of my baby :/ Getting the epidural was oddly the worst part of labor. Getting it was painful, it made me puke, it took forever to get done because I was having back to back contractions and they couldnt do it while I was having a contraction. It was miserable getting it. Once it kicked in it was fine obviously but it suuuucked. Also I had bad bad back pain for a few months afterwards.
If I were to have another pregnancy I would probably go water birth and stay away from the hospital…all of the IVs and catheters and the epi..it was all shitty.
Anonymous sent: Perhaps your neighbors know they're being loud so did that as a preemptive strike to deter you from trying to complain about them? It sounds by your description as if they either have surround sound or a big poor quality old television set up for action movies or more xbox etc. Praying for you and Bonnie, not religiously, just general good thoughts.
its weird cause they asked right after they moved if we thought they were too loud cause, “we know you have a new born baby.” We said we could hear them but that they were fine and not too loud (and they werent at the time.” I know its not tv.. the floors downstairs are hollow and I can hear them run from room to room.
And thank you :) I really appreciate it. So far its fairly good news. Also who is this? I never talk about my mom by name…you dont have to be anon..especially since we apparently know each other at least somewhat.
Anonymous sent: The people you support cannot CREATE a loving home. Their families are dysfunctional disjointed postmodern nightmares pieced together like a mr potato head. Your family goes back generations. Your child has your blood burning in his veins and everyone know it when they see your face in his. They call you a breeder, isn't that nice? Call someone a fag or a dyke and watch the sparks fly. But you, haha, to them you're just a dumb breeder.
Anonymous sent: i'm very sorry to hear about what your mother, yourself and your family are going through. but i just wanted to say that i think it's beautiful that you would sacrifice your hair for your mother so she won't be alone in the case that she loses hers. i hope it was caught early, and i hope everything turns out alright for all of you. stay strong!
Thank you, I appreciate it it :) I hope its been caught early as well and things turn out ok.
and I just couldnt imagine not doing anything I can for her. She is such a beautiful woman inside and out. Shes incredibly strong but we are all human and I can only imagine having to lose your hair and what that is like. She stood with me through my hardest time, regardless of the humiliation it caused her, the least I can do is stand with her in this in share with her some of the pain so shes not alone.
Anonymous sent: I absolutely love the fact that you're a vehement feminist with a normal heterosexual family. It's sooooo funny because you have no idea how much those people hate your fucking guts just because you had a child with a white man. lol. Your son will have to go through hell because of the shit these organizations peddle, I hope you know that.
what? How does wanting my son to have the same rights and opportunities as i and me the same as him bad for him? How does wanting for it to be ok for him to enjoy stereotypically feminine things, be gay and ok be trans and not judged make me bad. How will wanting for him to be responsible and held accountable for his actions equally to everyone else result negatively for him? and please explain to me how wanting my som to grow up in a world of compassion, diversity and equality will put him through hell. please cause im not seeing it.
also please explain how his being white is related to this..
im fighting for whats right and what i believe in, that is a quality id like to instill in my son. Regardless of what some ignorant anon who is just trying to start shit thinks.
Anonymous sent: Do you know any online stores to get good quality lolita stuff without being overly expensive? I absolutely adore your blog! Keep being awesome! <3
honestly I havent bough new lolita stuff in so damn long I really couldnt tell you :s sorry. I always buy from the sales comm…and since having a kid I havnt had the body for it while preggo or the money so Im so out of the loop
Anonymous sent: what kind of diapers do you use? Do you like them?? Im trying to figure out what to buy but its scary!!
haha it is kind of scary, there are a lot of different brands a lot of WAHM ones too..and different kinds like AI1 AI2 pocets..fitted.. etc..I feel like Im still figuring it out.
I have three kinds and they are all pocket style:
Fuzzybunz. I dont really know what to say about them. The ones I have are so old they dont even make them anymore. They have a new one size style. They ahve been well used. They seem like they would be pretty decent though.
Ebay chinese ones: These are the ones that are like 5$ a diaper.. suuuuuuper cheap. They are really soft and I have yet to have a problem with things actually leaking through the diaper. I could see them being great for babies who arent thin like mine. I really like them I just have one gripe. I wish they were double gusseted. Two rows of snaps for the waist instead of one would make them much better and prevent the thigh leaks I get sometimes when he pees. The PUL fabric ones though not as fuzzy and soft are much better!
Happy heinys: I think I have one size organics. Though they run small..at least the one I have. Its used so I dont know but it can get smaller. Im guessing its for nb-4mo vs the typical one size which goes from probably 1mo-1year depending on how big your baby is. I LOVE them though. They fit SO WELL. Never any leaks. I like the velcro waist with the fitted snaps down the center to adjust the rise. The inserts which are microfiber are great and super absorbent. But because they are microfiber they have to go in the pocket and cant go on top cause they cant touch the babies skin. But they are seriously amazing. If they werent $21ea new I would buy a whole stash of them!